I originally posted this on March 20, 2014 as a part of the now-defunct Thankful Thursday link up. Well, now it’s Thursday again. It’s also our 10th anniversary! And, my awesome husband is so awesome that he is fine with me going to the Focused Blogging Conference on our 10th Anniversary. That’s how supportive he his and that’s how much he encourages me in my blogging endeavors. So, while I’m learning how to be a better blogger, I’ll rerun this post in honor of The Wellness Husband.
Happy Thankful Thursday! This is not going to be a cliche “I love my husband” kind of post. This is going to be an introspective on the fundamentals of a great relationship.
I recently read a post entitled Happily Married Is My Reality…And I Won’t Apologize for That. The author was promoting her new book, Happy Wives Club: One Woman’s Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage. As she went on her book tour, interviewer after interviewer insinuated that the women of the “Happy Wives Club” were somehow disingenuous because no one could truly be happily married.
How sad! I am happily married and am not embarrassed. I am not being disingenuous to my readers. I am not posting this just to sound good. I’m not bragging. This is what a marriage should be. If you are dating and you don’t have a beautiful, deep connection with your significant other, it’s time to break it off. If you are married and don’t have a beautiful, deep connection with your spouse, you may want to seek the wise counsel of your religious leader or a marriage therapist. That may sound harsh, but a healthy marriage is so rewarding. I wish that for all of my readers.
13 Reasons Why I Have an Awesome Marriage
- My husband is my best friend. We tell each other everything. We never tire of each other’s company.
- I enjoy spending time with him. Being together is important to us. Even if he is watching TV and I am on the computer blogging, we are in the same room and periodically chatting about things.
- We have the same interests. I love sports as much as my husband. We have the same political and religious views. We both like to travel. We both value exercise and healthy eating and make them a pivotal part of our lives. I’m not an opposites attract kind of person. It’s so important that you and your spouse have common goals.
- We are on the same page about finances, investing, living debt-free, and how we spend our money. This is an absolute must for a good relationship. A joint study by Kansas State University and Texas Tech, Examining the Relationship Between Financial Issues and Divorce, revealed that financial arguments were the number one cause of divorce.
- We don’t watch TV in separate rooms. He has a few programs in which I am not interested. That’s when I check my email, blog, or call my parents. But, I’m still in the same room. The key to a happy marriage – always let the man have the remote!
- We eat dinner together. If I am going to be out networking or working, I make sure there are leftovers or something in the crock pot. He’s a great cook in his own right, so he can also put together an impressive meal on his own. He also likes to do the dishes and wash, which is the main reason why I love him!
- We go to bed at the same time. This keeps us on the same schedule and it’s just nice to settle in together at the end of the day. I must admit, now that I’m blogging, this isn’t always possible because sometimes I’m still working on a post when he’s ready to go to bed. I find this one of the only negatives of blogging.
- We don’t need to be “entertained.” Many Friday nights, we try to think of something to do and we usually end up enjoying each other’s company and not doing a thing.
- I still get excited about “date night.” We don’t go bar hopping and we’re not moviegoers. But, the one thing we enjoy is dining out. One or two nights a week we like to have a date night where we go to a restaurant. If it’s a pre-planned date night, I find that I am excited all day as if it’s our first date! (Wellness Wife side note – we always have a coupon unless it’s a special occasion pick and we try to choose restaurants that have healthy options.)
- He is not an annoyance to me. I think it’s so sad when people act like their spouse is a burden or an annoyance – “the old ball-and-chain.”
- We don’t argue or pick at each other. Some people make sport of arguing to obtain dominance. This is alarming.
- We don’t “one up” each other. I am proud of his accomplishments and encourage him in his pursuits. He does the same for me. No one is a bigger supporter of this blog than my husband. It’s not a competition and we do not belittle each other’s achievements. You should be your spouse’s biggest fan.
- We are excited about our future together. I always feel bad for people who said they “can’t retire because they would drive their wife crazy” or who “had to go back to work because they were bored out of their mind.” As I shared in my post The Promise of Peace and Quiet, we dream of sitting on the proverbial front porch swing together.
What are your keys to a happy marriage? Why are you thankful for your spouse?
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